When you're afraid of failing, you might decide not to try again or move forward. If we let fear stop us from moving forward in life, we'll probably miss some great chances along the way.
This is something I've learned over the years from both successful and
disastrous projects. Fear of failing is the deep worry you feel when you think about all the bad
things that might happen if you don't reach your goal. The great worry makes it
more likely that they will hold back or give up. But don't let fear of failing
hold you back. What can you do?
1. Tell the Difference Between Credible and Made-up Threats:
Real threats put your life in danger, while supposed threats are just made up
stories. People who are afraid of failing are making it up, and you shouldn't
let that stop you from reaching your goals.
2. Rethink Failure as a Difference:
"Success is often hard to define," I read somewhere a while ago. It's
even harder to fail.
To make sure you reach your goal, you need to stop thinking about what went
wrong and start thinking about what you want to achieve and what you might
achieve. You can't fail as long as you keep trying.
3. Set Goals For Growth Instead of Protection:
Promotional goals are about getting something good to happen. For example,
"I want to get more clients." Prevention goals, on the other hand, are
about keeping something bad from happening. For example, "I hope I don't
lose my job." People who set prevention goals tend to be less organized in
their pursuit of goals, less engaged, less self-determined, and more anxious.
4. Do Not Let it Become a Part of Who You are:
loser is a normal part of life. Just because you haven't found a way to reach
your goal yet doesn't mean you're a loser. It's important not to mix up making
mistakes with being someone who only makes mistakes. In the end, what you do to
get past loss and reach success will define who you are.
5. Write Down What You Learned for the Next Time:
When making choices about the future, you should think about the problems that
might come up and plan for them, especially how you will deal with them. Since
we know problems are going to happen, we need to be ready with backup plans and
steps for when they do.
6. Make it Hurt
It hurts to fail, and you can't hide how disappointed you are. You should feel
free to be angry, hurt, and upset about it. You should feel sorry for yourself,
but not for too long. You need to move on. That was my three-day "pity
party." Now I'm ready to try again.
We set protection goals out of fear that we will fail, which can make it hard
to focus, weaken our efforts, and make plans.
One way to get rid of the fear of failing is to stop setting prevention goals
as promotion goals.
